It's hard to define what a successful and happy family is,
much less how achieve one.
In these sessions, Dr. Thayne shares inspiring best practices
gleaned from decades of his own experience
and interviews other experts for their insights related to
the promotion of intentional family living.
Whether your family is in the midst of a major struggle
or you are looking for fresh ideas to help you prioritize
and enhance your home life, this podcast is for you.
May - 7: Give Feedforward - Not Feedback
Dr. Tim Thayne talks about the difference between feedforward and feedback. Feedback is saying the obvious of a previous event, while feedforward is giving good counsel before the event happens. When feedforward is delivered correctly it will make the road to success less painful, less time consuming and more enjoyable.
Apr - 30: Dr. Thaynes Career Crisis
Dr. Tim Thayne tells his personal story of his career and several of the major changes. He discusses one of his most pivotal career crisis' that lead to him pioneering the aftercare system and starting Homeward bound.
Dr. Tim Thayne Interviews his son Talmage. Talmage served a church service mission and found that coming home would be a harder transition than he thought. He shares his story and how he was able to start climbing out of a dark place through understanding his identity, being surrounded by loving and supportive family and friends and knowing he will fail and it's not the end.
Apr - 9: Feel the Range of Human Emotion
Dr. Tim Thayne Discusses the importance of feeling the range of human emotions. We need to understand the seriousness of any hardship so we can have empathy, but we need to look to the future with hope and optimism. This episode will help you see if you are leaning too far one way or the other and what you can do to gain perspective.
Though you may not have had “trust” come to mind as the most important ingredient for a healthy and progressing relationship, it is absolutely critical. In this episode, Dr. Tim Thayne shares how trust can either smooth out rough edges or a lack of it will make everything hard.
Mar - 26: Structure Your Family Time
Dr. Tim Thayne talks about the importance of structuring your family's time. Your kids won't structure their own time and the evidence is their messy room. So during this time where we all seem to have more time on our hand's let's be more intentional with how we spend it.
Mar - 19: Keep Calm and Carry On
With everyone's world and calendar in upheaval, many parents with teens or young adults in treatment are at loose ends about what to do. Though our first instinct may be to gather everyone home, Dr. Thayne discusses why managing our emotions and assessing the situation with a long-term view, not just the current picture, is what will be most helpful for our son or daughter.
You are not alone in raising your young person. Dr. Thayne talks about the secret weapon otherwise known as an engaged home team, citing studies and stories of the importance of support from all types of people in yours or your child’s life. He outlines three important tips to build a solid home team for your family:
1. Get at least one team member. (moving from 0 - 1 member makes a greater difference than growing from 2 -15)
2. Be vulnerable with people you can trust.
3. Look for opportunities to serve on another’s home team.
Allison Posell is interviewed about a parent's stamina. Having been both a parent and a therapist, she shares her own stories of endurance. By the end, listeners will better understand how to create a sustainable lifestyle which will be realized in increased stamina.
Dr. Tim Thayne interviews Karl Ebeling, AKA Farmer Karl of Grow Life. There is a deep connection to the earth and to other people that can come from working together in a garden. You may be convinced to start your own little garden after hearing some of the compelling stories they share.Read the full podcast transcription
Feb - 19: Grandpa's Grit and the Horses Sense
Dr. Tim Thayne tells a story from his childhood about going up in the mountains with his Grandpa. Almost stranded in the mountains, they trust their horses to guide them back to camp. He breaks down two lessons and challenges you to:
Follow this link if you are interested in submitting an article or photography to the yearbook.https://notbychance.com/yearbook/Read the full podcast transcription
Feb - 12: Overcoming Overwhelm
Dr. Tim Thayne talks about overwhelm and stress. He acknowledges the universal nature of this frequent emotion and even opens up about his own recent struggles and how he dealt with it. He offers several easily implemented ideas that will help you know how to overcome your overwhelm and even nurture optimism and hope.Read the full podcast transcription
Feb - 5: Assumed Intent - Shari Murray
Dr. Tim Thayne interviews Shari Murray. They discuss assuming someone's intent and specifically assuming it when there is anxiety or other mental health issues involved. You will find that believing someone has good intent has much more utility than assuming the worst.Read the full podcast transcription
Jan - 29: Screen Savvy with Dr. Ryan Anderson
Dr. Tim Thayne interviews Dr. Ryan Anderson, author of Screen Savvy. They talk about the pros and cons of social media and how to develop healthy habits around your devices. When listening to this you will recognize things that you do personally and you will know how to better create boundaries for you and your family.Read the full podcast transcription
Jan - 24: Courage to Speak (Communication 2/2)
Dr. Tim Thayne does his second episode in a mini-series on communication. He discusses speaking and the responsibility we have in conveying our opinions. By the time you finished listening to this, you will be able to express your thoughts in a way that fosters conversation rather than conflict.Read the full podcast transcription
Jan - 17: Courage to Listen (Communication 1/2)
Dr. Tim Thayne does the first episode in a two-part series on communication. He speaks about how listening is really the power position in any conversation. He gives helpful tips to show how you are really listening and trying to understand their point of view so you can most effectively communicate your position.
Jan - 10: Recognizing the Testing Phase
Dr. Tim Thayne interviews Kelly Olsen, the clinical director at Homeward Bound. She has had a lot of experience helping families as their teen comes home from treatment. So she knows exactly how families will be tested and how she can help them get through that inevitable testing phase.
Jan - 2: Processes to Achieve Your Goals
Dr. Thayne talks about the low number of goals being set in most people's lives, much less stuck to. Join him as he dives into the importance of setting meaningful goals, letting others in on them, and setting up the processes that will make your goals the most likely to be achieved, even if you slip up.
Dec - 23: Survive and Enjoy Your Holiday
Dr. Tim Thayne talks about traditions and whether we should keep them for tradition sake or adapt them to fit a new purpose. He goes over helpful tips on how to survive and even enjoy your holiday season when there are family gatherings that could potentially bring stress.
Dec - 18: The Power of Family Dinner
Dr. Tim Thayne interviews Christine Van Wagenen on the importance of having family dinner. Christine Van Wagenen lives her life with uncommon exuberance. She has dedicated her life to serving women in her family, community, and throughout the world. She strives to utilize and share all her divine gifts. This helped her gracefully raise six children, own and operate a cooking school, serve with her husband on two missions in Asia, and bravely return to university studies after a 33-year hiatus to earn her Bachelor’s degree. Her anticipated book, The Power of Family Dinner: Does Your Dining Table Gather Dust or Your Family? will be available Spring of 2020.
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Dr. Tim Thayne interview Mike Gurr. Mike has appeared on Doctor Phil and The Doctor Show as an eating disorders expert. They dive into how a family unit should react, and help with someone that has an eating disorder.Listen to the full episode >
Nov - 27: The Fortune of Gratitude
Doctor Thayne talks about the importance of Gratitude. He briefly goes over how it began with the Pilgrims in the Autumn 1621 and how Abraham Lincoln officially made it a national holiday during the height of the civil war. He explains how gratitude will literally bring you fortune. He shares a story of a young man in a wilderness treatment program one Christmas.Listen to the full episode >
Nov - 21: Not By Chance Yearbook Launch
Dr. Tim Thayne interviews his wife and business partner, Roxanne Thayne. They discuss their vision for a Not By Chance Yearbook. She describes how this periodical that is full of authentic personal narratives, poetry, creative prompts and beautiful photography is focused on creating an intentional family life. Issue One was officially released November 2019 and subsequent issues will be released each year during the Thanksgiving season. To order a copy of your own or to give as a gift, go to notbychance.com. You are also encouraged to submit your own materials for consideration for the 2020 yearbook. Find submission guidelines at the above site and in the back pages of the Yearbook itself.Listen to the full episode >